[dropcap]O[/dropcap]ne who fears failure limits his activities.
Failure is only the opportunity to more
intelligently begin again.
Here are three tips to help you stay strong and focused on your goals even when everything around you tells you to give up:
1) Never give yourself an out. Most people do this without even realizing it. They are willing to work hard on achieving their goals, until the going gets too rough or their motivation dwindles. Don’t do that! Commit to making your goals happen, no matter what! Never quit, never contemplate admitting failure, and never lose your inner determination. No matter what anyone says, you must keep going. No matter what your circumstances are showing you, don’t let go of your dream! If you are able to visualize the dream, invoke passion behind it – you are capable of achieving it! You must believe that.
2) Although it’s important to set, and expectant goal achievement date; be careful not to lock yourself to that date without flexibility. Don’t get hooked on a specific time-frame for completion. It’s okay to set a general time-line, but be aware that some circumstances will be beyond your control, so you can’t say for sure when your goal will be achieved. If you do that, you’re just setting yourself up for failure! Instead, get a general idea of when you’d like your goal to be completed, but then take it a day at a time and focus on making progress, not reaching the finish line in as little time as possible.
When I set my mind to a goal, part of my assessment is a realistic time-frame that I can expect to get what I want. I recognize that I don’t really own when my goal will be realized. There is a power greater than me, ultimately influences the synchronicity of the who, when, where and how. Now, that is not to say that I make a goal and walk away (well sort of, I do.)
Let me explain, when I set a goal, I use the typical S,M.A.R.T goals planning. I know when I expect to celebrate achievemnet. My time-frame is realistic because I know I can’t force the unnatural or produce the unrealistic. So, I establish the goal, set a time for achievement and prepare the opportunity to get it because I know that it is coming, when it’s the right time. Then, I walk away and let it go.
3) Finally, be sure that you don’t view obstacles and setbacks as failures. The two are completely different. An obstacle, setback or delay means only one thing: it’s not time for your goal to be completed yet. That’s it! It doesn’t mean you failed; it doesn’t mean you’re weak; it doesn’t mean you’ll never achieve your goals. It simply means you’re not done yet. You’ve got to keep moving forward and find a way around or through the obstacle.
Perhaps you need to review and make necessary revisions to your plan. Maybe your plan isn’t big enough. You may not have met the right players yet. Or it is also possible that you are simply not prepared – and when you are, your goals will be realized.
In the meantime, you are successfully moving toward your goals and exemplifying faith, determination and persistence – the three major ingredients necessary for success.
[dropcap]W[/dropcap]hen a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers. Ralph Waldo Emerson
[pullquote align=”right”] FEAR is my friend. I do not fear FEAR. FEAR warns me of hurt, harm or danger. FEAR let’s me know when I must take time for an introspective honest look at what I am feeling so I can adjust my thoughts accordingly. I welcome FEAR, it is now one of my greatest tools. Andrea Callahan [/pullquote]
Need some inspiration, checkout a list of Power Failure Quotes to get your mind back in the right perspective. Also here is another great article, “Failure Is For your Highest Good; It Will Move Your Success Forward If You Allow It.“
I would love to hear from you! Share your thoughts on failure below.
In awareness, passion, joy, love & success,Callahan