Using Self-Mastery and Determination to Get What You Want
Are you the type of person who has willpower to see a project through to its completion or do you feel your willpower is lacking? While many people think that some people have more willpower than others, in my opinion this is simply not true. Everyone has the same amount of willpower, the difference is the way you choose to use your willpower.
It is easy to blame your lack of willpower for the choices you make. It’s even easier to lay blame on willpower for giving up and not making your goals. How many times have you heard someone say, “I just don’t have the willpower to do it?” What does that really mean?
Do they lack self-determination, the ability to control themselves or energy?
The real question is: How badly do you want it? Whatever that it is for you, how strong is the desire to get it? Is it a burning, longing deep seated intention to succeed?
If so, are you willing to apply that passion to your New Year’s resolutions this year? Are you prepared to take decisive action and make your resolutions become a reality?
To make your New Year’s resolutions successful you must have the right mindset. You must know that you can actually achieve your resolution. I’m sure you have heard the saying, “If you can conceive it, if you believe it, you can achieve it.”
[dropcap]L [/dropcap]isten, if you don’t believe with every fiber in your body that your dream is yours to be realized, then you are setting yourself up to fail.
How Big Is Your Dream?
On one hand, you will be told to make your goals grand. Reach for the stars, dream big. Although, I don’t recommend getting stuck in limited thinking, I do however, think your dreams should be attainable. You should be able to roadmap them and see a clear path to achievement.
I am not suggesting scrap a dream because you don’t have all the details of your journey to success, because we can never have all the details – events, circumstances and chance eliminate 100% control. However, running a 5k marathon this spring, may not be reasonable if you have not trained or worked out in 2 years. However, it may be a reasonable goal to run the Boston Marathon next year, after you have prepared your mind and body for such a feat.
Instead you want to set a resolution that you can envision in your mind and actually see yourself doing by the end of the year. It’s not necessary to set goals that span the entire year, you may only need a few months to achieve your goal and that’s great too. Or you may set the due date of your big goal for the end of the year but set smaller objectives due throughout the year to help keep you on pace for your December victory.
Visualize Your Success
Get laser focused and see what you want to see.
Sit still for a moment, close your eyes and seeing yourself and your resolution reconciled. Imagine the place where your dreams and goals meet for success. Allow yourself to feel the emotion that follows after you get what you want.
If you want to land that big contract, envision yourself giving the presentation that blows your prospect away. Picture in your mind, you in the meeting confident, knowledgeable and charming. See the head nods of agreement and smile on your potential client’s face.
How does it feel the moment you realized that you are going to get signed today? Imagine the feeling of accomplishment as you shake your new client’s hand for the new deal.
Anytime you lose focus or lack motivation, take a few minutes to redirect your intention to get what you want. It’s also a good idea to create a vision board too. A vision board is a really great tool when your dream is huge and becomes overwhelming. A picture or story board is also valuable because it allows you to see how far you have come, rather than focusing on how far you still have to go.
Learning how to increase your willpower is going to be a huge step in helping you successfully reach your resolution this year. Begin by allowing yourself to see your life and your business through positive lenses. Try to look at the bright side of things instead of the downside. Allow yourself to celebrate small wins. Be in gratitude for all the things you have accomplished, no matter how small.
Affirmations are another good way to improve your mindset for success. Surround yourself with positive statements to reinforce a clear positive mind. Write affirmations on post cards, sticky notes and post them everywhere feasible that you spend time, including the bathroom mirror! Write them in your journal to remind yourself what’s really important to you.
It is also critically important to surround yourself with positive thinking people, this essential to your success, particularly when you are having moments of doubt, anxiety and fear. Your affirming network of friends can quickly bring you back to strive mode and you the same for them in their time of need.
Good things always seem to happen to successful people. You can easily become one of these people by rubbing shoulders with the right people. Allow yourself to be present and walk among the successful. Find someone who has achieved your goal already, look to them for inspiration. Talk regularly with someone who is also on the journey to achieving their goals as they understand your hustle. They know exactly what you are going through, where you are and where you are going. The two of you can share motivation, best practices and strategies as well as support each other mentally to keep going.
Shifting your mindset is not going to happen overnight, it will take some time and a whole lot of effort on your part to achieve willpower. Just always remember your willpower, just like courage is like a muscle, it must be worked out and used consistently for best results.
Nothing is impossible if you truly want something to happen. Work at it and you will see the success and reap the rewards.
Your goals may change over the course of time and you are free to adapt and readjust where necessary. Nothing is written in stone and as long as you get to where you want to be stay open. Flexibility is key to long-term success. It may not come packaged as you expect. It may look very different from what you envisioned and that’s perfectly fine.
In the end, you want to achieve your goals, reconcile your resolution and enjoy the earned success. On December 31, when you will feel proud that you stuck to your New Year’s resolution and won!
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In awareness, passion, joy, purpose and willpower,