self-love is key to brilliant lifeTake a look at the 105 Self Principles through positive lenses and see how you can make a shift in your thoughts. Given all you do for everyone, it is OK for you to balance your attention on yourself. In fact, I would push you further and suggest that you should make yourself a priority and focus on your  happiness. After all, think about it…can you effectively manage a business, family and your life if you are not taking care of yourself first?

Building Your Vocabulary of the Positive Self  with the 105 Self  Principles

If you are like most service providers, you easily give it all away, generally to anyone who is in need. What is it? The it is different for each of us. It could be anything from your emotional energy to monetary assistance. Whenever the people around us are in need, we are there to give a helping hand.

I applaud you for servicing others; for being dependable; for being reliable; for caring for others; for making others a priority; for giving unconditional love; for sacrificing and taking responsibility for others. Hooray for you!

However, if you are like many of us, you give it all away! As wonderful as it is that you take care of others, it is essential that you save some for yourself. This may be a challenge for you if you received similar messages that I have all my life. “Give, give, give. Don’t be selfish. Put others first. Take care of…Help. Provide. Give more. Nurture. Love. Let go. Support. Give some more.” You get the idea, right?

If you are nodding your head or thinking, this is so me..please read the entire message that I am sharing with you today.

Give yourself permission to change, evolve and become one with yourself. Allow yourself the right to care for you. Grant yourself the go ahead to make you a priority. Your success must be rooted in awareness, passion, joy and love of self.

If loving, caring, nurturing and developing yourself is selfish – then may I offer you the definition of selfish:

Selfish = (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure

Do not self-forget

Self-forgetful = forgetful of oneself or one’s needs

By definition, making yourself a priority can not mean that you are selfish. We have already established all the things that you give away!

The Positive Self Principles

Here are 105 definitions of self you can use to incorporate into your lifestyle – positively.  Out of 423 entries found there are 105 that can convert to manifest affirmative meanings to your life.

  1. Self = a person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others
  2. Self-assessment =assessment or evaluation of oneself or one’s actions and attitudes
  3. Self-awareness = conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires
  4. Self-concept = an idea of the self constructed from the beliefs one holds about oneself and the responses of others
  5. Self-advocacy = the action of representing oneself or one’s views or interests
  6. Self-affirmation = the recognition and assertion of the existence and value of one’s individual self
  7. Self-approval = approval or appreciation of oneself
  8. Self-assertion = the confident and forceful expression or promotion of oneself, one’s views, or one’s desires
  9. Self-assured = confidence in one’s own abilities or character
  10. Self-centered = preoccupied with oneself and one’s affairs
  11. Self-confidence = a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment
  12. Self-congratulatory =  pride regarding one’s personal achievements or qualities; self-satisfaction
  13. Self-consistent = not having parts or aspects that are in conflict or contradiction with each other; consistent
  14. Self-control = the ability to control oneself, in particular one’s emotions and desires or the expression of them in one’s behavior, esp. in difficult situations
  15. Self-contained = (of a person) quiet and independent; not depending on or influenced by others
  16. Self-correcting = correcting oneself or itself without external help
  17. Self-defense = the defense of one’s person or interests
  18. Self-definition = definition of one’s individuality and one’s role in life
  19. Self-delight = delight in oneself or one’s existence
  20. Self-dependence = reliance on one’s own strengths rather than on others; independence
  21. Self-development = the process by which a person’s character or abilities are gradually developed
  22. Self-determination = the process by which a person controls their own life
  23. Self-devotion = the devotion of oneself; love, loyalty, or enthusiasm for self
  24. Self-directed = (of an emotion, statement, or activity) directed at oneself
    • (of an activity) under one’s own control : self-directed learning.
    • (of a person) showing initiative and the ability to organize oneself
  25. Self-discipline = the ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weaknesses; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it
  26. Self-discovery = the process of acquiring insight into one’s own character
  27. Self-educated = educated largely through one’s own efforts, rather than by formal instruction
  28. Self-employed = working for oneself as a freelancer or the owner of a business rather than for an employer
  29. Self-esteem = confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect
  30. Self-evaluation = another term for self-assessment
  31. Self-examination = the study of one’s own behavior and motivations
  32. Self-existent = existing independently of other beings or causes
  33. Self-expression = the expression of one’s feelings, thoughts, or ideas, esp. in writing, art, music, or dance
  34. Self-financing = having or generating enough income to finance itself
  35. Self-flattery = the holding of an unjustifiably high opinion of oneself or one’s actions
  36. Self-forgetful = forgetful of oneself or one’s needs
  37. Self-fulfilling = bound to be proved correct or to come true as a result of behavior caused by its being expressed
  38. Self-fulfillment = the fulfillment of one’s hopes and ambition
  39. Self-generating = generated by itself, rather than by some external force
  40. Self-glorification = exaltation of oneself and one’s abilities
  41. Self-govern = another term for self-control
  42. Self-guided = undertaken independently without supervision
  43. Self-help = the use of one’s own efforts and resources to achieve things without relying on others
  44. Self-identification = the attribution of certain characteristics or qualities to oneself
  45. Self-identity = the recognition of one’s potential and qualities as an individual, esp. in relation to social context
  46. Self-image = the idea one has of one’s abilities, appearance, and personality
  47. Self-importance = an exaggerated sense of one’s own value or importance
  48. Self-imposed = imposed on oneself, not by an external force
  49. Self-improvement = the improvement of one’s knowledge, status, or character by one’s own efforts
  50. Self-induced = brought about by oneself
  51. Self-indulgent = characterized by doing or tending to do exactly what one wants, esp. when this involves pleasure or idleness
  52. Self-interest = one’s personal interest or advantage
  53. Self-involved = wrapped up in oneself or one’s own thoughts
  54. Self-justification = the justification or excusing of oneself or one’s actions
  55. Self-knowing = understanding of oneself or one’s own motives or character
  56. Self-knowledge = understanding of oneself or one’s own motives or character
  57. Self-limited = relating to or denoting something that limits itself, in particular
  58. Self-love = regard for one’s own well-being and happiness
  59. Self-made = having become successful or rich by one’s own efforts
  60. Self-management = management of or by oneself; the taking of responsibility for one’s own behavior and well-being
  61. Self-mastery = self-control
  62. Self-motion = movement caused by oneself or itself, not by an external action or agent
  63. Self-motivated = motivated to do or achieve something because of one’s own enthusiasm or interest, without needing pressure from others
  64. Self-perpetuating = perpetuating itself or oneself without external agency or intervention
  65. Self-portrait = a portrait of an artist produced or created by that artist
  66. Self-possessed = calm, confident, and in control of one’s feelings; composed
  67. Self-praise = praise of oneself; boasting
  68. Self-preservation = the protection of oneself from harm or death
  69. Self-proclaimed = described as or proclaimed to be such by oneself, without endorsement by others
  70. Self-propagating = able to propagate itself – spread and promote (an idea, theory, knowledge)
  71. Self-propelled = moving or able to move without external propulsion (the action of driving or pushing forward)
  72. Self-protection = protection of oneself or itself
  73. Self-realization = fulfillment of one’s own potential
  74. Self-reference = making reference to itself or oneself
  75. Self-reflection = meditation or serious thought about one’s character, actions, and motives
  76. Self-reflexive = containing a reflection or image of itself; self-referential
  77. Self-regard = regard or consideration for oneself; self-respect
  78. Self-regulating = regulating itself without intervention from external bodies
  79. Self-reliance = reliance on one’s own powers and resources rather than those of others
  80. Self-renewal = the process of renewing oneself or itself
  81. Self-renunciation = renunciation of one’s own will; self-sacrifice; unselfishness
  82. Self-respect = pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity
  83. Self-restrained = restraint imposed by oneself on one’s own actions; self-control
  84. Self-revealing = revealing one’s character or motives
  85. Self-righteous = having or characterized by a certainty
  86. Self-rule = self-government
  87. Self-seeking = another term for self-serving
  88. Self-select = choose for oneself
  89. Self-sow = propagate itself by seed – spread and promote (an idea, theory, knowledge, etc.) widely
  90. Self-starter = a person who is sufficiently motivated or ambitious to start a new career or business or to pursue further education without the help of others
  91. Self-styled = using a description or title that one has given oneself
  92. Self-subsistence =  without dependence on or support from external agencies
  93. Self-sufficient = needing no outside help in satisfying one’s basic needs
  94. Self-support = having the resources to be able to survive without outside assistance
  95. Self-sustained = able to continue in a healthy state without outside assistance
  96. Self-taught = having acquired knowledge or skill on one’s own initiative rather than through formal instruction or training
  97. Self-transcendence = the overcoming of the limits of the individual self and its desires in spiritual contemplation and realization
  98. Self-understanding = awareness of and ability to understand one’s own actions and reactions
  99. Self-willed = obstinately doing what one wants in spite of the wishes or orders of others
  100. Self-worth = another term for self-esteem
  101. Self-heal = heal one’s self
  102. Self-hood = the quality that constitutes one’s individuality; the state of having an individual identity
  103. Self-ism = concentration on one’s own interests
  104. Selfness = a person’s essential individuality
  105. Selfish = concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure

Take a look at the 105 Self Principles through positive lenses and see how you can make a shift in your thoughts. Given all you do for everyone, it is OK for you to balance your attention on yourself. In fact, I would push your further and suggest that you make yourself a priority and focus on your own happiness. After all, think about it…how can you effectively manage a business, family and your life if you are not taking care of yourself first?

self love is key to success[pullquote align=”right”] Does this sound familiar? Have you changed the way your view your happiness? Have you made a shift in your mindset? Are you committed to taking care of YOU? [/pullquote]

Tell me what you think, please share your thoughts.

In awareness, passion, joy, prosperity & self-love,



Andrea Callahan is a brand designer. She helps passion & purpose-driven entrepreneurs maximize their strengths to craft and implement an image that represents their WHY and to use that why to position themselves as an Industry Influencer. She a speaker, seminar leader and the author of, "It's Your Brand ~ Make Your Identity Clear" available on Callahan launched the Industry Influencer Academy at

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